Meditation

by Tatu

May 2001


Back in the 90's a typical scene at our local commercial clubs could be described as cuff her up, hit her for half and hour, "now pick up the toys bitch".  Then you would watch her in the daze of a pain induced endorphin high stumble in the dark, wheezing for air in the smoke filled room.

I watched scenes like that for many years. Then I started combining the spiritual aspects of my life with the erotic play. I will never forget those early days when I would have my submissive kneel in the stage area and meditate in preparation for the scene. Everyone was asking, "what is she doing?" People would stand and watch her like a calf stares at a new gate. The music would be blasting with a deafening industrial roar, but I would put her into a space, using meditation techniques. Then we would scene.

When the scene was over for most, it was not over for us.  I would take her down, out of the ropes or off the equipment and lead her to the side, cover her up, and let her cuddle up on my waist, or in my arms and I would help her breathe (through the choking club smoke) and gently bring her down from her pleasurable journey she had taken. Now this part was what really got the stares. No one had a clue as to what was going on. Often I would employ the help of a friend to pick up the toys and get them out of the way so someone else could use the space.

Meditation is focus. It is relaxation. It is centering your life energies and developing a harmony and balance to life. Meditation is a fundamental part to Nawaikido style kinbaku. It is fundamental to a sense of spirituality with any scene. From the preparation of the scene to the scene itself, to the aftercare.

I have the submissive sit seza and center herself, and focus everything at that place about 2" below the naval. She is to shut everything else out and focus, relaxing every part of her body. She is to start accessing the body's energies and calling forth her inner pleasure centers.

Breathing is crucial to this meditation, feeling her life energies circulate deep into her belly.

As the scene takes place she will continue the meditative journey in her mind. It may be related to pain inflicted so as to process it and transform it into the endorphin rush, or it may be to process the restriction of her bondage.

If she is suspended in ropes she will need to use these techniques in order to process. She will learn long slow breaths all the way down her chest cavity, because if she tries to breath with a chest cavity expansion she may not be able to do that due to the rope chest harness, and she may become panicked if she is not prepared to breath properly.

Clubs are notoriously loud and can be very distracting. I have witnessed scenes in fact been a part of them when the submissive could not get into her meditative space and was bothered by all the noise, etc. In those cases you just have to shut it down and try again another time.

After the completion of a successful scene, meditation becomes a vital part of restoring life energies back to a normal plain. This is facilitated by proper aftercare. She has just been through an incredible journey. She will be high on her body's production of endorphins. Her meditation will not be a focused type of meditation, her rope master should help her find her focus, holding her, breathing with her, stroking her, caressing her, keeping her warm.  She will come back in a most worshipful state of mind, desirous to show her love and gratitude. Let her do this in her own time. It is a most cruel and unloving thing to interrupt this process.

The interesting thing is that now, some 7 or 8 years later, I look around these same clubs and see a submissive here and there kneeling preparing for her Master to begin the scene. I also see tenderness being applied by some tough old Dominants, to there submissive, a blanket over her, and a few tender caresses.  Smile.


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